Your wife says she doesn't love you anymore. You're at a loss. You still love her and the thought of her feeling so distant from you emotionally breaks your heart. You're definitely not ready to throw in the towel and give up on your marriage, but what can you do? You may be surprised to know that there are simple steps you can start taking today to pull her closer to you again. Your marriage can get better and you can get your wife to fall in love with you all over again.
When your wife says she doesn't love you anymore you have to recognize that there is a difference between being in love and loving someone. Your wife may be telling you that she just doesn't feel the same infatuation and romantic love for you that she once did. Perhaps she still loves you as a partner and co-parent but her desire for you has diminished. If that's the case you need to consider why her feelings have changed and if there was a point, within the relationship, when that happened. If there was and you can identify it, that's where your focus needs to be.
Sometimes a woman will start to feel emotionally detached from her husband because he isn't fulfilling her needs anymore. Life gets very busy once a couple moves from the dating phase into full blown married life. Not only do you have to tend to your work demands but you have a crucial job within the home being a father too. Obviously, that pulls you very thin and something is bound to suffer. In many marriages, it's the relationship between the couples that is sacrificed.
You have to put your wife at the very top of your priority list if you want to save your marriage and guide her back to feeling in love with you. You need to start planning your schedule so there is always opportunity for you and your wife to have some alone time each day. It doesn't have to be anything extravagant or costly. Set up a babysitting exchange with other couples so one night a week you have the evening off from tending to the children. Cook your wife dinner or take her someplace you both enjoy. Listen to her and encourage her to share her feelings. Make her feel adored and special again. Sometimes all a woman needs to feel close to her husband again is to know she matters most to him.