For couples who find that their marriage might be going downhill, there are things that you can do in order to save your marriage even if your partner is not interested or doubtful that there is a problem. You must start today to improve your marriage and your life together if you feel like you are going down the road that might end up in filing for divorce and it should not be taken lightly.
All marriages are different but to maintain a healthy and happy relationship they all require the same things. The ability to forgive, openness and honesty in communication, a willingness to make time for each other, acceptance and of course love are all the things that a couple needs to have. Without good communication in a marriage, it is missing one of the key elements to a healthy marriage. Resentment can come when a partner is not open and honest and holds those feelings inside. You must have communication with your partner so that problems can be known. Never hesitate to tell your partner about something that you do not like in the relationship, making sure you tell them in a respectful and non-confrontational manor.
Without the element of forgiveness, a marriage cannot survive without it. Holding on to past hurts or betrayals will slowly eat away at you and your love for your spouse. Forgiveness towards someone does not mean that you forget or that you condone the hurtful behavior, it just means that you are willing to understand that it was a mistake and you are accepting that they are sorry for what happened. Don't let your stubbornness or desire for revenge get in the way of your marriage.
By showing a willingness to make time for your spouse, you are showing them that you care for them. Leave the responsibilities of life behind and spend some time together and that will make the bond between you stronger.
The last two things that you need in every marriage are acceptance and love. You must always show acceptance for your spouse for who they truly are inside. You can deal with the dishes in the sink if they are messy. If they are a neat freak, you can deal with them pushing a mop around your feet. You married your spouse for a reason and they are not going to change after the wedding day. You show the love for your spouse by the acceptance of them. You love them by accepting them for who they are on the inside and that is true love. We get used to treating a person a certain way after years of marriage and it may be hard to remember how a person should be treated. Always give all your support to your spouse even though you might not get it in return for that is what you do if you truly love someone. If you truly love your spouse, wouldn't you talk to them respectfully even if they do not show you the same courtesy? Stop looking for your spouse to treat you the way that you think that you deserve to be treated. Love is about doing what is best for the person you love. Eventually your spouse will follow your example and, in the best way they know how, will show their love for you.