Relationships - Do You Have Problems With Relationships?

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It's pretty simple why relationships work or don't work. Here are the main reasons they don't:

One: You go into a relationship without knowing what you want.
Two: You go into a relationship with a firm picture of what you want, with very little flexibility.
Three: You go into a relationship not caring what you're going to get.
Four: You go into a relationship knowing something better will come along, and you'll go after it.

If you are about to go into a relationship, wouldn't you rather it was one you were proud of, one you were happy in, one you felt great about? One you're going to enjoy telling your grand kids about? How do you do that?

First, if you don't know how to do that, check around. Go to places where couples are and watch them interact. What do you like about what you are seeing? What don't you like?

After you've done this several times, you go home and write a list. Yes, I know. Lists can get you in trouble sometimes. Well, this list is just a list of what you saw that you liked. That's all. You just liked what you saw and wrote it down.

There are those who say to write down what you don't like also. I say Why? If you write down what you don't like or want, you are attracting it. In your mind, you say "I'm going to stay away from "that"." Your brain hears whatever "that" is, and that's exactly what you will see. You are attracting "that" simply by thinking about it. It isn't exactly what you are saying that matters, it's what your brain is hearing that counts. Think about this.

"I'm not going to give that person a piece of my mind."

Or this.

"I'm not going to eat that cookie."

Or this.

"I'm not going to spend all my money before payday."

Your brain doesn't acknowledge "not", so take the "not" out. What is your brain hearing -- over and over?

What inevitably happens? You do give that person a piece of your mind. You do eat that cookie. You do spend all your money before payday. Because chances are, you are saying it or thinking it over and over.

Again, I say Why write down what you don't like? Why not concentrate on what you do like, and attract that into your life?

Going back to your list, what if it has things like love and respect and trust? Are you going to be able to attract love and respect and trust?

If you don't love, respect, and trust your inner self, then it's going to be hard to attract love, respect, and trust from others. Why? Because love attracts love. That means you have to love yourself in order to be loving and attract love.

Do you think you deserve love?

Do you think you deserve respect?

Do you think you deserve trust?

If the answers to those questions are no, what can you do about it?

It goes back to what are you telling your brain.

If you don't feel worthy of someone else's love, respect, or trust, you won't attract it.

How do you go about making it so that you do feel worthy?

You find three times a day to sit and relax. You visualize or pretend that you are worthy of all good things. Start seeing everything you do as good. Start right now making yourself the type of person someone can love, respect, and trust in your mind. It will soon come true in your life. What you see and believe, you can achieve.

Good luck!

Thanks for reading.

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This article was published on 2010/03/30
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