Even though your partner is not interested or is doubtful that there is a problem, there are things that you can do in order to save your marriage if you find that it is going downhill. If you feel like you are going down a road headed for filing for divorce, this can not be taken lightly and you must start today to improve your marriage and life together.
Although all marriages are different, they all require the same things in order to maintain a healthy and happy relationship. Couples need openness and honesty in their communication, the ability to forgive, a willingness to make time for each other, acceptance, and of course, love. The key element in a healthy marriage is communication. Not being open and honest with your partner and keeping those emotions inside can lead to resentment. A breakdown of communication between partners will cause each other to not know if there are any problems. Never hesitate to tell your partner about something that you do not like in the relationship, making sure you tell them in a respectful and non-confrontational manor.
A marriage can not live without the element of forgiveness. Holding on to past hurts or betrayals will slowly eat away at you and your love for your spouse. If you are willing to understand that it was a mistake what they did to hurt you and you are accepting that they are sorry for what happened, forgiveness towards them does not mean that you should forget or that you condone the hurtful behavior. Don't let your stubbornness or desire for revenge get in the way of your marriage.
Show your spouse that you care for them by having a willingness to make time for them. You can affirm the bond that you share together just by doing things together and leaving the responsibilities of life behind.
Every marriage must have these two things, acceptance and love. You must accept your spouse for who they truly are inside. You can deal with the dishes in the sink if they are messy. You can deal with them pushing a mop around your feet, maybe they are just a neat freak. A spouse, after the wedding day is not going to change and remember you married your spouse for a reason. Acceptance also shows the love that you have for your spouse. You love them by accepting them for who they are on the inside and that is true love. We get used to treating a person a certain way after years of marriage and it may be hard to remember how a person should be treated. Even if your spouse didn't give you the support in the way you need, wouldn't you give them all of the support they need if you truly love them? Just because your spouse does not give you the courtesy of talking respectfully to you, talk respectfully to them because that is what you do when you are truly in love. Stop looking for your spouse to treat you the way that you think that you deserve to be treated. Love is about doing what is best for the person you love. Eventually your spouse will follow your example and, in the best way they know how, will show their love for you.