Getting your ex boyfriend back after a breakup can be easy or difficult. A lot depends on the actions you take. If you pressure him and try to force him to love you again, it can be very difficult. But if you show him why he should love you, it can be relatively easy. That does not mean you can call him and recite a number of reason that you are so lovable. But, there are ways to make him think it is his idea to love you again.
As a general rule, men can be pretty stubborn. When they think they are being forced to do something, they will fight against it. But, you can take the same thing and if they think it is their idea to do it, they will do it with enthusiasm. Think of when you first met him, you didn't come on to him. You made yourself attractive and got his attention and then you played hard to get.
You let him think it was his idea to chase you when all of the time you were leading him on. Your ex boyfriend thought he won your love when it was you that made him love you. Getting him back after a breakup should be no different. First you have to let him go, recognize that he is not your boyfriend anymore. Next you need to attract him to you again.
Let a few weeks pass after the breakup without having any contact with him. Then go to a good salon and get a make over. New hairstyle, manicure and a tan. Then go shopping for new clothes to accent your new look. Next get some friends together and hit the places he hangs out. When you find him, ignore him and flirt with some of the other guys and then leave.
Your ex boyfriend will be stunned at how great you look. This will attract him to you and make him see why he should love you again. But his ego and pride will be hurt because you ignored him. This is the same as playing hard to get and he will feel challenged. You will begin to get phone calls, emails and text messages from him, but don't answer them.
Obviously you cannot play hard to get forever or he will give up. This time you have an advantage you didn't have when you made him fall in love with you before. You know his habits. So, it should be easy to run into him again. This time let him start a conversation with you. Be a little cool to him at first and then act as if he is beginning to thaw the ice.
Your ex boyfriend might want to start dating you again, but tell him to let you think about it. From there on take his calls now and then. Not al of them, you don't want him thinking you are waiting for his calls. Let him gradually talk you into dating again. By taking this action, you are showing him why he should love you again and he will think it is all his idea.